At work, I am required to be indirect. When I talk, I talk around and around in a circle, to get what I mean. I make statements, which contain no emotional value. I express concern without furrowing my brow. I have, on occasion, publicly held my head in my hands, which is as close as I can get to expressing my disbelief about a situation. I think I expressed myself better in French.
On another, but related note: No one can know what motivates a person. As someone once said, "People do things for perfectly good reasons." But sometimes, those methods don't serve us anymore, and we don't even realize it.